Thoughts of Peaches (Re-Written)

Here's the post I promised. 2010 version (re-written).

This was written based on what I see and notice around me every day. I'm not much of a talker but those that know me know that I like to observe. Mental notes last longer :p

-Mind you this is just my view it's not a set manual on how life is so please apply with discretion.

Now if I'm right most of us have reached that age where we now want that outstanding significant other for whatever reason. Even though we may have had bad experiences and feel contempt towards the opposite sex , companionship is still longed for. That's just the way it's been written. For everyone there is someone out there. 

So far from my own experiences I can say nobody is perfect. 

We are all flawed in more ways than one so for you to find that 'one' person that's meant for you and will accept you (flaws and all), you need to learn to accept your flaws first of all just the way they are. This will prepare you for when you meet that person because once you have learnt to accept your flaws, you can now make room to accept theirs. That's what makes them perfect in your eyes.  

Now this is just an observation but I've noticed that in our generation the majority seem to have a very warped view on life generally (I haven't met the whole world so this is just based on what I've seen and does not mean it applies to everyone). 

Females are getting more shallow and materialistic while males don't seem to care much beyond looks.

The ratio of looks to personality is almost peaking at 70/30 and this is quite sad. 

 "Ahh her body is crazy I'd wife that still", ermm so what happens when she loses all appeal after supposedly marrying her. Looks/physique will lose its value at some point, it's life.

Some of your ideologies actually amuse me if I must say but hey to each their own. You want a Proverbs 31 woman, what have you got to offer?

Don't get me wrong there are a lot of decent mature guys out there that are highly driven and motivated but they seem to be getting overshadowed and not given enough chances. 

Now moving on to the ladies, most of us are guilty of this very statement "All boys are the same". I certainly I'm guilty of uttering this statement in the past. It just gets you thinking doesn't it, that the same trend and pattern is being laid out by males(not all) which leads to this statement being made. 

Let me tell you this there's nothing worse than the anger of a scorned woman. So guys please beware!

To be quite frank it only takes one decent guy to change a female's outlook on she feels generally about males. 

Some females have this tendency of falling for wolf in sheep's clothing. Why? Well most tend to fall for what they hear which is mostly sweet nothings.  

Females were created to be emotional. 

On the other hand males were created to be logical. Straight to the point.

Example: How was your day?

Male response: Yeah was alright. Thanks.

Female response: Yes was really good. OMG this girl at work was pissing me off. blah blah blah.

See the difference?

It's just how it is but ladies let's try to not let our emotions get the best of us in some situations (easier said than done yes).

Ladies keep on guard and do not be deceived or drawn in by material things. It's all surface.  

You see him wearing designer head to toe and popping the most expensive champagnes in a club and suddenly he's good looking and conclude he's 'the one' . Sweetie what if he borrowed everything he's showing off or making money in a very dishonest way (mind you if he's making his own and working his ass off then fair enough). But what happens when his cover is blown? On to the next one right.. ["Everyday is for the thief, but one day is for the owner"]

Think of your long term needs not what you want short term. 

Yeah he has a car now and money and spends on you/makes you feel like a queen but is your future secure and guaranteed with 'him'?

He may not possess everything you want right this moment but his future could be bright. If you can see this just be patient, give him all the support he needs and deserve not nagging him constantly. Push him to be the best he can be. Afterall you are building that empire for the both of you. Riches and success don't happen overnight (And no AC does not count).

Being gullible sometimes is what leads to heartbreak for some. Afterwards they now group everyone in the same boat and be bitter. Did you ever stop to think you brought it upon yourself due to your own actions? Saying that there are some cruel people out there that feed on an individual's innocence.

But in life you live and learn. Get yourself up, dust your shoulders and keep it moving. That being said males do get heartbroken too (maybe a small percentage compared to females).

Your supposed other half should be one to motivate you, inspire you, believe in your dreams not someone that will bring you down with negativity. If you see that they are not on the same wavelength as you don't force it and stop wasting your time. That's your cue to exit. Time is money.

Do not ever try to rush anything just because your friends are in a loving relationship does not mean you have to follow suit. Everyone has different paths in life.

You see them posting pictures, being a happy couple but do you know what happens behind the doors. Do you know the storm they've passed through to get to where they are. Not all that glitters is gold. 

Things like that can't be rushed. Rushed things usually never have a smooth outcome. 

Good things come to those who wait and patience is a virtue. Don't rush.

  Eventually when you find that 'one' treat them with kindness, be patient with them, endure their worst, push their best, challenge them, understand them, respect them and love them. 

We might all have an ideal man/woman we want and make endless lists but one thing is certain for every one there IS someone already set out for you. You might come across distractions but when you find that 'one' you'll just know and they may not even fit into your list in the slightest way.

Accept your partner's flaw and don't ever try to change them but aim to make them a better person.

Love will find its way to you, stop searching. It usually catches you unaware and when you least expect it.

If you jump into a relationship with the intention of making them change or for them to grow on you, it could bring you a lot of pain.  

I can sit here and give you a list of traits to look for in a partner but we all have different preferences so that could very well be pointless. As long as you know they are good for you.

Nothing comes easy. Guys if you've found your Proverbs 31 woman treasure her, ladies if you've found your Prince Charming do the same. Diamonds don't just lie randomly on the street.

 Relationships are hard work, just like flowers you have to nurture it continuously so don't ever get comfortable.

If you're still waiting for your 'other' be patient. It's better to wait 5 years in order to live a happy and peaceful life than settle with someone in the moment to live in sorrow and pain for a lifetime (Not saying 5 years is the norm that's a bit long lol but you get where I'm coming from)

Don't fall for what you hear or see.

Go for what you need and not what you want. Need supercedes want.

Get what you deserve(don't settle), never compromise standards and don't be too rigid. Be open-minded 

Also let's not be shallow, just like a shallow sea at some point the surface will reveal itself and you'll see there's no more to it than that.

  

Remember God's time is always the best :)

  

Just for clarification purposes I addressed females more because most of us tend to wear our heart on a sleeve and are more affected by the other party due to the female's emotional way of thinking. The female mood seem to have a mind of their own sometimes.Going from happy to sad, sad to confused to angry all in a short space of time. So I'm not trying to be biased or anything lol and I do hope some kind of balance exists in this post. 

Signed,

Bee

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